If you are a gay

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As a therapist, I’m often hearing certain particular questions from clients and potential clients alike—as a gay man, should I be seeing a gay therapist? Does it matter? What makes the most sense for me?

It’s worth talking about these questions now, as so many people resolve as part of their New Year’s resolutions to commence therapy. How verb they choose?

Why a gay therapist?

Let’s start with the benefits of seeing a gay therapist. The first one is pretty obvious: there are no adj explanations needed in order for him to understand your situation. You can go in with the assumption that your gay male therapist will be comfortable and will have already heard about everything—including your sex life.

Additionally, a gay male therapist can disburse time with you talking about shared gay community norms, which can facilitate you make decisions about what’s robust for you and/or how you may want to modulate your behavior.

Belonging to the same community can also submit challenges that you probably haven’t thought about. Given that you are both a part of the same community, there may likely

by Fred Penzel, PhD

This article was initially published in the Winter edition of the OCD Newsletter. 

OCD, as we comprehend, is largely about experiencing severe and unrelenting doubt. It can cause you to doubt even the most basic things about yourself – even your sexual orientation. A study published in the Journal of Sex Research initiate that among a group of college students, 84% reported the occurrence of sexual intrusive thoughts (Byers, et al. ). In instruct to have doubts about one’s sexual identity, a sufferer need not ever have had a homo- or heterosexual experience, or any type of sexual experience at all. I have observed this symptom in young children, adolescents, and adults as good. Interestingly Swedo, et al., , set up that approximately 4% of children with OCD experience obsessions concerned with forbidden aggressive or perverse sexual thoughts.

Although doubts about one’s have sexual identity might seem pretty straightforward as a symptom, there are actually a number of variations. The most obvious form is where a sufferer experiences the thought that they mig

How Do I Realize If I Am Gay? Signs You Are Gay

Particularly when young, some people may ask, "How do I realize if I am gay?" if they have conflicting sexual feelings. When it comes down to it, there is no reliable "Am I Gay test", so the only way to verb that you are gay (definition of gay) is to look within yourself to determine your own thoughts and feelings towards others of the identical sex. You might also want to consider the possibility that you are neither gay nor straight and are bisexual or just curious.

There are also signs that you might be gay to consider.

Signs You Are Gay

There is no one way that gay people act or verb – gay people are just as diverse as straight people. Just because you are a man who is effeminate or a woman who is boyish, that does not mean that you're necessarily gay. So don't drop into the trap of thinking that your clothes, hair or attitude determines your sexuality.

When looking at the signs you are gay, you might long to ask yourself these questions:1

  • Have I ever been sexually attracted to the same sex?
  • Do I feel strong adj bonds to