What it means to be a lesbian
The definition of lesbian
This post was written by Caroline, a young feminist lesbian working in the Violence Against Women sector, and was originally published on her blog. We have reproduced it here with her permission because we think this is an important piece which reveals how young lesbians&#; perceptions of themselves, their sexuality, and their right to boundaries are affected by social media. We hope that teachers and parents will read this and reflect on what the phrase &#;conversion therapy&#; means in this context.
Lesbian: woman loving woman.
When I first came out as a lesbian, aged around 14, I didn’t question what a woman was. I had bigger problems: understanding your sexuality as a teenager is all consuming.
I came out to my best comrade and within a week she was my girlfriend and we had said “I love you”. Such is the way of teenage love. My friendship group at academy were mostly queer. Again, I didn’t question what queer meant or the history of the word, it just felt like a nice catch all of sexuality. We didn’t talk about gender, we talked about English ho
Pass me the chapstick
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1. Lipstick
What it actually means: Make-up in a variety of colours and shades applied to the lips.
What it means to lesbians: A feminine lesbian.
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2. Chapstick
What it actually means: Transparent gloss or treatment for dehydrated lips.
What it means to lesbians: A soft-butch, i.e: &#;Justin Bieber is such a soft butch.&#;
3. Closet
What it actually means: Often establish in bedrooms. Somewhere to store clothes, shoes and accessories.
What it means to lesbians: A person/lesbian who is not yet open about their sexuality.
4. Bieber
What it actually means: An extremely annoying pop-star.
What it means to lesbians: A lesbian who looks appreciate Justin Bieber.
5. Scissor
What it actually means: An instrument used in many homes and offices to cut material, document and so forth.
What it means to lesbians: An inappropriate question you are asked by complete strangers: &#;So, do you scissor?&#;
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6. Pillow princess/queen
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Andro/Androgyny/Androgynous
A lesbian who is neither butch nor femme, but may appear as both. A gender fluid butterfly. Might also go by: gender fluid, gender queer.
Baby Dyke
A juvenile, newbie lesbian &#; often accompanied by drama.
Beard
A person of the opposite sex who marries or dates a queer who is in the closet in order to conceal their homosexuality.
Beersexual
A noun who will only engage in lesbian activities when under the influence. Often seen in television shows and often happens between secure girl-friends.
Bicurious
A straight lady who wants to indulge her lesbian fantasies. (Occasionally, a lesbian who wants to indulge her hetero fantasies.)
Bisexual
A teen or guy w
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Lesbian is the first letter of the queer alphabet soup. We've all heard LGBTQ+ (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, plus.), but what does lesbian actually mean? People used to explain lesbians as "women loving women," but this definition is outdated and doesn't take into account the many transgender, non-binary, and gender non-conforming humans who still proudly verb themselves lesbians. I am one of these people.
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