You are so gay

It doesn’t matter if it is a first grader who might not know what the word “gay” means, a sixth grader trying to sound cool or a tenth grader “teasing” a friend. All of these scenarios have the potential of creating an unsafe classroom or school environment and must be addressed. So, what can caring adults do?

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STOP IT…

• “Remember, we don’t use put-downs in this class.”
• “Do you know what ‘gay’ means?"
• “It’s not OK at this school to utilize ‘gay’ disrespectfully to mean something is bad.”
• “You may not have meant to be hurtful, but when you apply the word ‘gay’ to mean something is bad or stupid, it is hurtful.” Follow-up with, “Do you understand why it is hurtful?”
• “Using any derogatory word to tease someone is harassment and is unacceptable.”
• “Even if you didn’t mean to offend people who are gay, it is offensive to contact this assignment gay (or queer); if you don’t enjoy something, then speak yo
  

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  Happy Are We us Niggers So Gay

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  goldstein_kg08_21

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  A song about blacks dancing and singing.

  Subject Headings (Library of Congress)

  Blacks; Race Relations; Stereotypes (Social psychology); Dance; Music; Singing; Popular melody -- England -- 19th century;

  Relational Format

  pamphlet

  Original Format

  broadsides (notices); songs (documents)

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  Kenneth Goldstein Collection, Archives and Special Collections, University of Mississippi Libraries

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