Gay dating advice

Dating as a Gay Man – Advice from a Matchmaker

While I’m happy to work for people of all walks of life here at Tawkify, I spent the very first few years concentrating exclusively on matching gay men. I’ve worked for gay men of every shape, color, age, and net worth across the US, and I’ve learned a lot. I’ve observed trends in thought and behavior, how they might relate to the generations to which we associate and how they’re informed by our experiences. We grew up different. We remain different, in some way, from our straight peers, and our approach to dating is no exception. It’s through my function with my clients that I’ve learned to be very grateful for being queer. I sense lucky to exclaim that I would not have it any other way–words that would cause a year-old me to shudder.

While the world slowly becomes more accepting of diversity, in what feels like a three-steps-forward, two-steps-back, awkward waltz, we’re forced to dance along. I’ve written down a few steps that I trust will help you or a companion on your verb journey. As a note: the bulk of these take-aways have been info

Six ways to be a fine first date &#; for gay men

By Emen8, updated 12 months ago in Sex and dating / Dating and relationships

Ready to encounter him IRL? Whatever you’re looking for, here are six easy ways to make a excellent impression on a first date &#; for gay, bi+ and queer men.

The art of dating in the gay world isn’t defunct but it has changed a lot.

One thing that hasn’t changed is the awkwardness of first dates! Try too hard to impress and you’ll arrive across as desperate or cocky. Compete it too cold and he’ll ponder you’re not interested. It’s a adj line to verb, especially when he’s right there distracting you with his beard and biceps and nice cologne.

To help navigate the gay dating minefield, we’ve put together some hard-won wisdom, just for guys who like guys.

1. Establish whether it’s a date or a hook-up. And be prepared for either

If you’ve studied history, you’ll understand there was a time when people went days, even weeks (!!!) dating someone without having sex. But for those of us in the era of apps, sex on the first date is often very much on the table (or the cou

17 Pieces of Dating Advice for Gay, Bi, and Pansexual Men

Societally, people mostly view dating as a means to an end — be that orgasm or marriage.

“But dating itself can be the end,” says Ackerman. “Dating allows us to experience new personalities, perspectives, physical intimacy, and lessons learned about what we do and don’t like.”

So don’t forget to enjoy the ride. Pun absolutely intended.

Gabrielle Kassel (she/her) is a queer sex educator and wellness journalist who is committed to helping people sense the best they can in their bodies. In addition to Healthline, her work has appeared in publications such as Shape, Cosmopolitan, Well+Good, Health, Self, Women’s Health, Greatist, and more! In her free day, Gabrielle can be found coaching CrossFit, reviewing pleasure products, hiking with her border collie, or recording episodes of the podcast she co-hosts called Bad In Bed. Track her on Instagram @Gabriellekassel.



8 Dating Tips for Gay Men from a Gay Psychotherapist

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Looking for a drawn-out term relationship?

Here are some tips based on my eighteen years as a psychotherapist working exclusively with gay men, and as Founder of the Gay Therapy Center. These suggestions are also informed by clinical research on relationships as well as my personal investigate as a recent dater.

Men Are Avoidant

Generally speaking, women are socialized to join. Men, not so much. That’s why they are so lonely.

So you’ll verb your chances of success if you take a chance on opening up, being real, and a just petite more vulnerable than your average gay male dater. That doesn’t mean spilling your guts on the first date. But can you stretch a petite and be the first to be more authentic?

Yes, it’s risky and scary. Successful dating is defined by risk. That’s why so many people shun it.

Dick Size

If you read and monitor social media targeted to gay men you get the sense that all we care about is big dicks and pecs. While these posts may get our attention in the digital age, and